Recently, I had a house guest for over a month and bless him but he was potentially one of the most annoying people I've ever lived with. It was a combination of me having lived alone for 7 years and him simply being a boy and not thinking.
And it got me thinking! I personally believe that life is a series of learning experiences - lessons that the universe wants us to learn before we move on to the next concept. I realise that is quite new age but I would be surprised if most people didn't agree.
So what did I learn? Well, I thought that this might be about tolerance - learning to live with other people. But, I can and I have! So Ms. Universe - I imagine her looking rather like my grandmother crossed with a librarian - comforting with a hint of menace - what are you trying to tell me?
After much consideration, I think I might have got it? I tend to put others first - I am 'wilfully independent' but I will always go the extra mile for my friends and family. Indeed, when I mentioned that I had a selfish streak to a friend, she laughed at me and said I was one of the most unselfish people she knew.
So I realised that perhaps my lesson was, by all means offer, but realise what you are offering and then don't resent it. I offered him accommodation but did it without thinking it through and with no stated agenda or outlined expectations. Therefore, he couldn't conform and I ended up feeling angry in my own home.
I need to offer what I am prepared to share, ask for what I want and clearly state what I expect. Easier said than done but Ms. Universe, I am listening honest.
Lxx
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